I was hanging out on the beach one day, doing my usual thing. Packed my bag of books, water, sunscreen, and towels and headed out. I set up my chair and sat down to settle in for some much needed R&R. Then I took a look around. I started soaking it all in: the sun, the waves, the people. Kids burying their sisters in the sand, bros throwing footballs at each other, Moms & Dads telling their kids not to bury their sisters.
Ahhh, what a life.
As I sat there, I started thinking about why I noticed the things I was paying attention to. Here I was, just chilling on the beach with literally a thousand things I could look at and notice. Clouds, sailboats, seagulls, seaweed, sand. The opportunities were endless! There were so many things to pay attention to, but I was only looking at certain things and people.
So I decided to play a little game with myself. I wanted to see if I could direct my focus and concentration. I counted the number of things I saw that were red. I took a few minutes and really noticed and counted them all. Then I looked down at my book and tried to think of everything around me that was blue. There was probably a ton of blue, but I didn’t see it at all!
That is how our minds work, what we choose to focus on becomes our reality.
There are an infinite number of things that are all around us that we don’t see. Just like my game, what we choose to pay attention to is how we experience our life. We become totally oblivious to anything other than what we are focused on.
We could be surrounded by glitter, sunshine, and rainbows, but if we are only looking for red, then red is all we will see.
That’s why it’s so important to pay attention to what we think about. If we are only thinking of the things we don’t want, then that is all we will see and experience.
Take my friend Jamie. She loves her husband, but is totally annoyed by some of his habits. She hates that he plays video games. He sees it as a way to relax and unwind. So she tells herself, “yep, there goes Matt again, playing video games instead of helping me around the house.” Even if he had spent 2 hours that day cleaning out the garage or sweeping the floors, she is focused on his stupid video games. That is all she sees because that is all she is focused on.
Or my friend Jake, the real estate agent. Jake is so concerned with the lack of high paying clients in his area that he is convinced he will never make a sale. He’ll tell himself, “Another day, 5 showings and no one is biting. Once again, no closings.” Meanwhile, his colleague Mary is killing it with her eighth sale this month! What is the difference? Jake is focused on what he doesn’t want. Even though he had 5 showings in one day, which is awesome, he is convinced he won’t make a sale.
The universe will respond to what we focus on. We have to keep our eye on the prize.
If we keep paying attention to how we can’t find a job, we may overlook the awesome job opportunity that was posted because we are so convinced we can’t find a job. When we close ourselves off by focusing on what we don’t want, the universe responds.
Meanwhile, we are surrounded by countless amazing opportunities. If we choose to keep our eye on the prize we want, and believe that we have it, our thoughts and actions will lead us to it.
Sooo….why would we think about anything other than what we want? Keeping our eye on the prize is the key to getting what it is we really want in life.
Now I would love to hear from you! In the comments below, tell me, what is the prize you have your eye set on?