There are times when we look back at our lives and wonder how we ended up where we are. We find ourselves just going through the motions, instead of being in charge like a CEO. In my conversations with people over the years, I have noticed that most of us don’t believe we have the power to control our lives to the extent that we actually can. Some of us feel out of control, overwhelmed, and unable to stop all the things we have obligated ourselves to. We don’t feel like we can take back the steering wheel and go in the direction we want to go. We have too many demands.
Here’s the deal: we have the ability to control our lives way more, and I mean WAY more than we give ourselves credit for! We are the CEO of our life.
But CEOs have to believe in their power.
The thing is that most of us don’t know how to take control of our lives. We think outside circumstances are the cause of our problems and that those things will never change. So we give up. We don’t try. Oh we think we are trying to make real, lasting change in our lives. But we don’t REALLY try. It’s hard to form new habits. So when we come across an obstacle, we give up. We don’t believe we have the power to control our life to the extent that we can.
Some of us also think its too much work because we don’t really have a plan. We don’t know which direction or path to take. So we just don’t take any. Or we fear making a mistake and ending up on the wrong course.
The good news is that it is EASY to figure out what kind of life you want to be CEO of.
As a new CEO, ask yourself:
· In my everyday life, what do I find myself doing because I am good at it but I don’t find it energizing or fulfilling? This could be any groups or clubs, helping others in volunteer roles or as part of your work, even your job.
· How many hours per week do I waste on activities that are boring or simply time filling? Things like posting on social media, sitting on the couch watching TV/ movies, hanging out with friends you only sort of like, reading, playing games? Ask yourself, “What am I getting out of this?”
· Look back at your calendar over the last 60 days – and ask, what appointments or activities did I do that were truly exciting, that used my talents and knowledge, and that left me feeling energized when done?
· How much of your life is spent doing what you really want? If time and money weren’t a concern, what would you be doing? Take out a piece of paper or do it on your laptop. Write “I want_______.” And then fill in the blank. Do this 200 times. It can give you an indication of what you truly madly deeply want in your life.
· What do I want my life to look like? Write a story of your life five years from now. Use very detailed descriptions of where you live, who with, what you do on a typical day, what you wear, listen to, eat, dream about, touch and smell. This will help you figure out what you really want to do and who you want to become.
We all have things that we want to do and accomplish in our lives. Over time, we lose our sense of who we really are and what we really want. It is easy to understand why this happens. Our wants get pushed aside as we set out to please society’s expectations of us. We hear from our parents, our teachers, our friends about what we should do with our lives. We have been pushed and pulled by other peoples’ expectations of us. We lose our voice.
But each one of us, as CEOs, have our own unique lives to create. We get to choose. We are in charge. And we can do whatever we decide to commit to doing. Starting right now.
So tell me, in the comments below, what is one action you took when you decided to become the CEO of YOUR life?