I first met my friend Diana a few years ago after listening to her give a keynote speech at a women’s leadership conference. As she was talking, I told myself I needed to do whatever it took to meet her. I was so excited about her vision and mission.
Since I was eager to connect with her, I lingered around after her speech. I waited for 45 minutes to try to meet her, but she was surrounded by 500 other people who also wanted to do the same thing.
After waiting another 45 minutes, I realized I wasn’t going to be able to even introduce myself.
I went back to my hotel room sad and frustrated. Then I thought to myself, okay, how else can I connect? About an hour went by as I took a shower and changed into jeans and a t-shirt, getting ready to boot up my laptop and get to work. Then it dawned on me, “she might still be in the conference room”
I took the elevator down to the first floor. As I watched the floors numbers go downwards, I remained hopeful that she could still be there. I told myself she must be tearing down her stage, and was probably still dealing with adoring fans.
As I rounded the corner and entered the conference room, she was gone. Damn it. I was too late.
Once again defeated, I went back up to my hotel room. I started working on my laptop. About 10 minutes later, I had another idea. I should check her Instagram. Maybe she is somewhere close by. I found her handle and saw that she posted a thank you to the audience from the conference. She mentioned she was in a restaurant a few blocks away with a group of people from the conference. One of them I recognized.
I walked in, someone saw me and asked me to join them. There were no seats next to Diana so I just sat down and started chatting with a different friend. I was so close to connecting with her but so far away! Finally, after a few people started trickling out, I had my chance! I found Diana and immediately said “Congratulations on all of your success! How did you prepare for your speech?” And just like that, boom, we talked for a while about her career path, her mindset, and life in general.
You can command joy in your life by connecting. Finding mutual connections or someone that has a connection to the person you want to meet is the easiest thing to do. While it is sometimes intimidating to put yourself out there, it is always worth it. Look for ways to introduce yourselves today!!