Command Joy today by Embracing Change. We live in a world of constant change. From the latest 3D printing capabilities to the newest Tesla model, change is constantly driving growth. At no other time in history are we more connected to new ideas, methodologies, ways of living and being.
But all of this change can be overwhelming!
We may inherently know that change is inevitable, but we also like to have a sense of control over our lives. Whether through our everydayisalwaysthesame routines and habits or holding onto jobs that give us a steady paycheck, we like to feel that we are in charge.
When I look at my normal day, I do about the same 10 things in the same way every day. Whether it’s how I drive to work or what I eat, I am a creature of habit.
Think about it. Do you drive to work or to school the same way each time? It’s crazy but that’s how we roll. We naturally like routine.
But then life happens. Major tragedies hit. Unexpected circumstances come up. And in those times, we are thrown for a loop. When we think that something “should” happen and it doesn’t, we may feel frustrated, annoyed, or angry.
When my Mom died, I was prepared to deal with the sadness and grief that overcame me. That all felt normal, natural, a common part of the experience. But there was an emotion that I wasn’t ready to deal with. One emotion that I was surprised about feeling. And that was the anger. This overwhelming feeling of frustration, unfairness of life, and pure anger that came along on my rollercoaster ride of emotions.
I was so angry at so many different things. I was frustrated that the doctors couldn’t cure her. I was angry that she died too soon. I was overwhelmed and annoyed that I had to deal with this.
But behind the anger, there was fear. And behind the fear was the unknowing. I hadn’t known a life without Mom. I knew that life would be forever changed. And I didn’t know how to deal with it.
Behind the anger was fear of change.
I knew intellectually that I couldn’t control the situation, but my brain still wanted to try.
Can anyone one relate to this? Has this ever happened to you? When things are going as they always were in your life but then a tragic event occurred. And you are forced to deal with a new normal your world. One you may not have been prepared to deal with.
So then if we know this may happen, how do we deal with this constant change to ease our frustration when it does happen?
We can learn to welcome change. To see change as a new opportunity.
To calm the anxiety that change can bring, there is one thing we can do: Prepare for the different outcomes.
We can think through each of the different scenarios that may come up and what you will do.
o For instance, if your company may be going through layoffs and your job could be eliminated, prepare for not having a job. How much money do you have in savings? Can you live off unemployment? Is your resume updated and have you applied for jobs lately? Then prepare for the scenario where you keep your job. How can you make sure that you aren’t in a position to worry about losing it in the future?
We can help ourselves see the excitement in change. Rather than attempt to hold on to what was and the way things were, we can embrace change and find the strength in it.