The only pain in life that we feel are the broken promises we have made to ourselves. Whether it is in our relationships, at work, or with our hobbies, when we realize that we are giving up too much of what we value, of what we know is truth in our hearts, we start to feel pain.
This pain could look like you in a job for 5 years and you feel like, no you KNOW that, you are putting in the extra mile, going above and beyond, but they aren’t giving you the promotion or the pay raise that you deserve. So what happens? You go into work every day and it’s the same conversation in your head of “I’m not being respected for what I do, they are taking advantage of me, this is ridiculous, I can’t believe I am putting up with this!” You are essentially placing yourself in a position where you are feeling like you compromise a bit of who you are, which in a sense, is an act of betrayal against yourself. This results in pain on the soul level.
It’s like when you are going shopping and you know you have been spending too much money, but you go in to just look and you pick up that $200 dress…in that moment there is a voice in your head saying, “You know you don’t need that, you have 20 other dresses you have never worn before,” yet you decide to buy it anyway. You tell yourself you are going to ignore that voice in your head, your gut instinct and intuition, and you do the complete opposite. Right then and there, in that moment, you have broken a promise you made to yourself. You have blocked out your intuitive voice, your inner GPS, and instead have started down a dark path of ignoring the wisdom inside of you.
Or you have been on a diet for months, but you aren’t losing any weight. You tell your friends, your family, your nutritionist, that you have a slow metabolism or your thyroid doesn’t work properly…you do all of this while knowing that you are cheating on your diet. With each piece of cake you lunge for, grab, and swallow, that voice in your head is telling you “Hey, you can’t have that, put it down” but you say to yourself “f-it, I only live once,” that’s breaking a promise to yourself and while it is a small, subtle act of betrayal, it is still hurting your soul and causing pain.
There is a certain unease in you when are compromising yourself. Even if it’s a small, seemingly subtle thing, it is costing you some of your self-respect.
So how do you know when you are going in the right direction? When you are on the right path? You will know because you won’t feel like you are put in a position where you negotiate your sense of integrity, or your personal power. You will know you aren’t compromising yourself when you don’t feel drained after a day’s work. You may feel tired, but you are not physically drained where you feel like you are losing life.
Now I would like to hear from you!! Where have you compromised in your life? Where have you decided that you won’t compromise any longer?