She leaned in towards me, focused on my every word. There was a look of concern in her face as I kept telling her my story. Her eyes were kind, full of concern for me. I could actually feel the love she was sending my way.
As I told her how much I missed my Mother, the gut wrenching guilt I go through every day, and why I feel like I need to keep torturing myself, she listened to my every word without interrupting. When I said all I could say, she sat back, folded her arms, and looked me right into my eyes. She said, “the fact that you are feeling this way is an indication that you are a good person. Your mother knew you loved her. That is enough. You are enough.”
As I breathed out, I felt a huge weight lifting off my shoulders. I felt flooded with happiness. It was almost like I was intoxicated. I felt as content and happy as a sleeping puppy.
What was it about this woman that made me feel so calm, confident, content? Why did I want to be around her longer, forever if I could make it happen? I had a feeling of being intoxicated. I was on a liberating high.
I was Emotionally Intoxicated.
Later, as I thought more about the high I was on when I was around her, I realized that the reason why I felt like that came down to one thing.
She was fully present with me.
When someone is present in the moment, who is not mentally rushing around in their heads about the next thing to do or think about, we feel it. We can sense the connection they have with the moment and with us.
Being around a present person is Emotionally Intoxicating.
To be around someone who is confident in the moment, who isn't in a hurry to do more or get more, we feel the calm and the confidence. People in the present moment know they already have enough, that they are enough.
It is Emotionally Intoxicating, and it is powerful. Being present in the moment is a powerful attribute bosses look for who want to promote leaders for their team, because it comes across as confidence. It is a powerful and attractive quality to potential romantic partners who want to be with someone with a special charisma. It is powerful to children because it gives them a soothing sense of calm when they are around an adult who is present.
It is powerful across the board. And it is Emotionally Intoxicating to be around.
So tell me, in the comments below, how are you going to show up with more in the moment presence today and create this Emotional Intoxication for people you are with?